In any divorce, it is the children that will experience the toughest times of all. They are the ones that suffer the most in this difficult process and that is why it is important that their stress level will be as low as possible. If a parent and his/her lawyer work together, they can think of ways to make the children not be so anxious about the whole situation. You can think up of ways that can help keep the peace for the sake of the children.
For children especially, separation of their parents is something that can change their lives forever. Parents should ensure that their activities remain as familiar as possible. Their regular extracurricular activities should be kept so that there is still a sense of normalcy in their lives. Their routines should not be altered. Take them out of their usual routine only when necessary.
If these activities are kept, it gives your children the chance to get out of the home for awhile and away from the stressful home situation. Some activities can take the anxiety away from their minds. Parents should take effort to accompany the child in an activity if this is his time of custody.
There will definitely be change when couples decide to divorce. This change can mean new things like new home, new schools or a new situation where there is only one parent left in the home. Try to keep their daily routing as normal as possible so that it will be easy for them in this transition period. One way to do this is to keep holiday activities and traditions as close to normal as possible. Make sure that you go through all the activities that you family was used to celebrating like Christmas mass, Easter egg hunting or simply baking cookies with the kids. This can be done a parent at a time and alter it the next year, and so on. Divorce attorneys can help in fairly diving holiday schedules with the children.
You can make a schedule calendar for older kids so that they will know their activities beforehand. With this their custody days can be organized together with their other family events, sporting events and other important tasks that they need to remember. A mobile app or a paper calendar can help remind them of these important dates. With this the child will have some kind of routine and help them understand their schedule.
It is best to continue with the daily activities in the home so that normalcy is maintained in the life of a child. When days are predictable you feel some kind of security even in the midst of life changing events. Working together with your divorce attorney can help to program the child’s daily activities so that the impact of the divorce will not be felt as strongly as it should be.